A New Mom’s Guide to Nursing in Public

You survived childbirth and learned the art of a successful latch, but if you are planning to breastfeed, there is one final frontier you will need to conquer: the art of nursing in public.

“Breastfed babies, especially newborns, nurse frequently,” says Holly Robinson, a Registered Nurse and International Board Certified Lactation Consultant. “No matter how well you plan, eventually you are going to find yourself out of the house with a hungry baby, so it’s important to be prepared.”

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends exclusive breastfeeding for about the first six months, and continued breastfeeding – along with the introduction of complimentary solids – for one year or more. While not every mother chooses to breastfeed, those who do are likely to breastfeed longer and enjoy the experience more by learning to nurse in public with confidence and ease.  

Practice Makes Perfect

For many new moms, breastfeeding presents enough of a challenge in the comfort of your own living room, so the thought of nursing in public – where other people might see you – can be intimidating. To boost your confidence, practice in front of a mirror so you can catch a glimpse of what others will (and won’t) be able to see.

When you are ready to venture out of the house for the first time, consider attending a local breastfeeding support group or grabbing coffee with a supportive friend. “I started small – going to the same coffee shop every day – for practice,” says Rhianna Mathias. “It was a shop I’d patronized a lot before baby, so I was familiar with the staff and felt comfortable there.” 

You may also want to attend some of the Live, Love, Latch events taking place throughout St. Louis during the month of August in celebration of National Breastfeeding Month. These events provide a great opportunity to connect with other breastfeeding families – and are a wonderful place for new moms to practice nursing in public in a fully supportive environment.   

Find Your Comfort Zone

Some mothers feel totally at ease lifting their shirts to nourish their newborns, no matter where they happen to be. Others prefer a bit more privacy. No matter what your personal preference (and both are totally okay), be prepared when you head out in public by scoping out the setting as soon as you arrive. Look for a comfortable bench or chair where you will be able to nurse when baby gets hungry.

“I found that corners were my friends because I could simply turn a bit to get her started,” says Melissa McAlpine of her experience breastfeeding her daughter. “After the baby is latched on, there’s not really anything to see, so I could swivel back.”  

If you are more comfortable nursing in private, keep in mind that many shopping centers, museums and attractions in the St. Louis area offer nursing stations as a courtesy to breastfeeding mothers.  

Dress for Success

The right clothes and accessories make all the difference when you’re out in public and baby decides it is time for a meal. Many breastfeeding mothers like to pair a specially designed nursing tank top with a cardigan or loose blouse, since the top can be lifted up while the tank still covers your middle. It’s also a good idea to wear a stretchy sports bra that can be pulled aside as needed or to learn how to unhook and lower the cups of a nursing bra with one hand.

Another key tip that breastfeeding veterans swear by? Learn how to nurse while carrying baby in a sling or baby carrier. Connect with Babywearing International of St. Louis Gateway for help finding the carrier that works for you.

Know Your Rights

Keep in mind that, when it comes to nursing in public, the law is on your side. Here in Missouri, Law RSMO 191.918 specifically states that “notwithstanding any law to the contrary, a mother may, with discretion, breastfeed her child or express breast milk in any public or private location where the mother is otherwise authorized to be.”    

Also be aware that, sensationalized news stories aside, most people genuinely support your right to nurse in public. “I never had any rude comments in ten years of nursing, only supportive ones,” says mom of four Jennifer Heffern.

Fake It ‘Til You Make It

If you are feeling nervous about breastfeeding your baby in public, you are not alone. “The first few times can seem uncomfortable,” admits Tammie Egloff, “but it gets easier.” Rest assured that the more you nurse in public, the less self-conscious you will become.  

“Eventually,” says Robinson, “you will appreciate the freedom that comes with knowing that, no matter where you are, you always have the perfect food ready to feed your baby.”